Why Asking A Woman Out On A Date May Ruin Attraction
A few hours ago I got a call from a woman I supposedly met a few months back. Skipping the usual chit chat and perfunctory social niceties, she asked me if I'd like to join her for a drink tonight.
Though flattered I was taken aback. I had no idea who this woman was. I asked her where we met, what she looks like, and what she was wearing when we met. It took her about five minutes of explaining herself for me to remember.
I wasn't intending to act rude.
The fact is… I meet a lot of women and it's hard to remember all of them.
But it took years of practice to get to the point where I am now.
For beautiful women though, even when their skill level at flirting and dating rivals Forest Gump, they still have heaps of men chomping at the bit for a date with them. Their hearts might be oozing with sweetness. But that doesn't mean they are gonna remember, make time for, or be interested in every guy who'd like to get his dirty little paws in their pants.
You've got to distinguish yourself from the herd. And it has very little to do with looks, money, or fame.
If you learn a few simple skills and avoid a couple of dating landmines, you'll have one-up on your competition. And you'll find it easier than taking a shit to get the women you desire out on dates with you.
For the most part dating doesn't take place until you've gotten a woman's number and talked with her over the phone.
So if you don't know the right way to get women's phone numbers, click here. And if you don't know how to trigger attraction with women over the phone click here.
Once you've gotten a woman's phone number, called her, and generated attraction inside her over the phone, it's time to get her out with you in person – there's only so much phone sex a man can take.
Okay… Let's imagine you've talked to a woman over the phone a couple times. You guys have great conversations. The sexual tension between you is so thick you can feel it collecting against the side of your neck.
It's time to get her out in person.
“What's the best way to ask her out on a date?” you might be wondering.
DON'T.
That's right… do not ask her out on a date. Asking women on dates is a surefire way to make them run.
Sure, every so often it works.
But here are just a few thoughts that frequent a woman's brain when men ask them out…
• Oh no… he must really like me a lot, but I'm not sure I like him
• Is he ready to dive into a serious relationship with me? I hardly even know him. What if I go on a date with him and don't like him at all. That'll be so awkward.
• What if I end up liking him… but he ends up loathing me.
• What if I'm not as pretty as he remembers? I better use the phone as a peek-a-boo nightgown I can wear over my whole identity. That way I can keep the fantasy alive.
• If he takes me out on a date, he might expect me to sleep with him?
The list of negative thoughts goes on. But the fact is… even one of them can cripple your chances with a woman.
But there's something I discovered years ago that's 100 times more effective than asking women on dates – not to mention, a heck of a lot cheaper.
Here's what to do…
After talkin' to a woman on the phone a few times, spontaneously suggest that you're about to go somewhere and she should tag along. Don't act as if you are going to propose marriage to her. The idea is to convey that you could care less whether or not she joins. You're just structuring an opportunity she can take or leave.
Also, assume she's going to say, “I wanna come.” Believing a woman wants to hang out with you communicates to her that you're a Prize and exponentially increases the chances that she'll say, “yes.”
Here's an example from my own life of moving a woman from the phone to out in person with me.
Years ago I had a “phone buddy” I developed a crush on. We had been talkin' over the phone for a few months. We got along great. But every time I tried asking her on a date, she'd give me the old N - O.
So one day I took a different approach. Out of left field I said, “Ya know… the weather is really nice today. I think I'm going to the zoo. Care to tag along?
She took to the bait and few hours later, she met me at the zoo. I didn't pay. Why should I have? We were just hanging out as buddies. After the zoo we went to a restaurant for dinner, and after dinner we went to a bar for drinks and after drinks we went to another bar for more drinks (BTW, she drove and paid for dinner and drinks). Before long her and I were locking lips.
Though I find this method works a thousand times better than asking women on dates, it's not full proof. Sometimes they still resist… even when they're attracted to you.
Reasons for their resistance range from testing to see if a man is the Prize to them having other men in their life to about a billion other reasons.
Don't sit around fretting over why a woman won't hang out with you.
Instead, follow this simple rule…
If a woman has talked to you over the phone more times than the number of fingers on her hand, calls you on her own accord, acts interested but resists getting together with you, do the following…
Stop calling her.
When she calls, don't call her back for awhile. Give her the gift of missing you for a nice, long week. If you had attraction with her and she enjoyed talking to you, she'll miss her conversations with you.
When you call she'll feel elated. Talk to her for a few minutes and then spontaneously suggest the two of you get together. If she resists and doesn't counter with something like: “I'm busy today. But let's get together tomorrow,” spout, “I gotta go. Bubye!”
This communicates a very strong message. By saying this, you are letting her know that if she wants to continue the interaction she's had with you, she's going to have to meet up with you in person. If the girl likes you, this almost never fails.
But I should warn you…
If you can't consistently generate attraction in women, your chances of bridging from spotting a woman you find attractive to approaching her to getting her number to successfully talking to her on the phone to meeting up with her in person to becoming intimate with her, will be sporadic at best.
Yet the reality is… there isn't a universal set of characteristics all women look for in men. Different women have different preferences.
But… and this is big but… after years of toiling in the single scene trenches I've extracted a set of behaviors any man can develop that universally triggers attraction inside women (Note: there's a difference between what triggers attraction in a woman and what her preference is).
I've put all these secrets into a course where many men just like you have been catapulting their lifestyle with women. And many of these secrets you can't find anywhere else in the world.
Let me ask you...
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If you answered yes to even one of these question then you owe it to yourself to get your hands on you a copy of my course right now. You deserve it!
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Your Loyal Dating Coach,
P.S., I do this line of work because I really want to help men succeed with women. I spent several years piddling around before I figured this stuff out. And I get excited hearing about the success guys are having with my material.
I'd like to reward those who have put in the time to study my material and are now getting results.
In a month or so I'm going to be releasing a new course. The material is very advanced and covers aspects of dating and attraction no one has ever talked about before. In the next few weeks I'll tell you more about it.
I'm going to give a few copies away to people who have studied my material, applied it in the real world, and gotten results. If you want a chance of getting your hands on a free copy of this new course, here's what I'd like you to do:
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