What A Pimp Can Teach Us About Attracting Women
Question From A Reader...
Hey Swinggcat, I just got done reading your ebook. The material is fantastic--it Really opened my eyes to a lot of things. And this is even after I've been on the newsletter and other websites for over a year. I just want to say thanks for putting this out there!
One of the things I've learned is that a big part of Prizability Depends on having a usable sense of humor. Sadly, I've never had a decent sense of humor. I'm a very serious person by default, and it's almost impossible for me to get anyone, not just women, to laugh. I was wondering if you happened to have a book that was just as useful at learning how to be funny in general. Or, at least, if you knew of a book or something you'd recommend.
Before I joined your newsletter and read your ebook, I was convinced that attraction was something you were either born with or without. Now I know otherwise, and I'm hoping the same is true about humor. Thanks again,
Bryce Lohr
My Response...
First off…
I'm glad you're getting a lot out of my book. You realize that a big part of succeeding with women is having Prizability.
In plain English, women are attracted to men they see as a Prize they want to win over.
Prizability is not the same thing as attraction. But not possessing Prizability with a woman makes it next to impossible to attract her.
And you are right, my friend…
Having a useable sense of humor is essential to gaining Prizability with women…
…but not for the reasons you probably think. Heck, not for the reasons most men think.
In a minute I'm going to share with you these reasons.
But first, let's state the obvious about humor…
We all like to laugh. It feels good. That's why we enjoy spending time with people who make us laugh.
But there's a darkside to humor. If used wrong, it can destroy your chances with a woman.
Here Are Two Common Mistakes When Using Humor To Attract Women...
1). Being a human joke book with feet: I know a few of these guys. They spout memorized joke after joke at women.
And in complete fairness, the women are in stitches. But instead of swooning over them with lust, women are thinking, “Dance little monkey, dance.”
2). Self deprecating humor: Years ago, I worked with a guy who could put a smile on any woman's face.
And he'd do it by making fun of himself. But despite making them laugh, they wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole.
(Note: A little self deprecating humor can be powerful. But reciting an hour long standup comedy routine about what a loser you are will make women avoid you like a leper).
Both examples of humor fail because they violate a fundamental attraction maxim: Women are attracted to men with Prizability.
Both acting like a performance monkey and using self deprecating humor defines the underlying meaning of your interaction with a woman as her being the Prize you are trying to win over. This underlying meaning is what I call a frame.
If you want to successfully attract a woman, you need to establish the frame that you are the Prize in the interaction. If not, your success with her is doomed to a suicidal gloom.
There's a secret to consistently setting strong frames… and it is a secret I learned from a real life pimp.
Years ago I read a book with the fitting title “Pimp.” It's the autobiography of the bona fide pimp Iceberg Slim.
In the book Slim says, “A pimp is happy when his hos are laughing because he knows that they're asleep.”
Translation from pimp-and-ho talk to plain English:
When a woman is laughing her defense mechanism shuts down. Her barriers go bye bye.
That's why when setting strong frames you should always use truckloads of humor.
Let's look at an example…
Imagine things are really heating up between you and a woman. Then out of left field she warns, “We are not sleeping together tonight.”
You could respond with, “I understand. If Howdy Doody and Elmer Fud had a kid it would look like me. You want a pretty boy.”
This might make a woman giggle. But it also gives your power away to her. It sets the frame that she's the Prize you don't feel worthy of. Expressing to a woman that you don't feel worthy of her will slaughter any attraction she felt for you.
Instead you could say to a woman, “Look… You don't have a choice in the matter… you are sleeping with me tonight.”
While this attempts to set a strong frame, it's devoid of any humor. Without humor, her defense goes up, making it extra difficult for you to suck her into your frame.
Alternatively you could rebut, “Look sweetie. I already know I'm not going to get any sleep tonight. You look like a snorer. So after sex I'm kicking you out. I have a big day tomorrow and need to get a good night's sleep.”
This uses humor plus sets the frame that you are the Prize she feels compelled to win over.
But I should warn you...
Without having a useable sense humor setting strong frames and attracting women is going to be an uphill battle.
Every ladies' man I know has a wicked sense of humor. Many of them aren't funny 24/7 but they can whip out hilarious material when needing to set a strong frame.
Many people will tell you: “If you weren't born funny, you're not gonna get funny any time soon.”
A few of my friends are always complaining to me about how they're green with envy for my humor and wit. They feel they can't improve their sense of humor because they weren't born funny.
I want to share a story with you that will shatter the "You can't learn funny" myth. This is a story I've NEVER told anyone before…
When I was a kid I gave new meaning to the word “unfunny.” Anytime I tried to make a joke people would stare at me with hostile bewilderment. Making jokes was no walk in the park.
But to make matters worse, my parents had a sadistic side to them.
At dinner parties they'd encourage me to tell jokes. My jokes would fill the room with an uncomfortable silence so thick I could feel it on the surface of my skin.
But my twisted parents took pleasure in witnessing my jokes fall flat. They found it hilarious.
Frustrated and determined to prove a point to my parents, I set out on a mission to become funny. I befriended several guys with wits as sharp as a whip.
After analyzing them for years and a lot of experimenting in the Real World with Real Women... I extracted a step-by-step structure for developing a lighting quick wit that gives you the skill and power to set strong frames in hilarious ways.
Inside my Foundations For Generating Attraction audio course you'll learn this entire method. Plus you'll get your hands on dozens and dozens of exercises for sharpening your wit.
But that's only the tip of the iceberg. My audio course is a world class education on dating, attracting, and succeeding with the women you desire.
This knowledge took me many long hours of experimenting to discover. And you won't find these secrets anywhere else in
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Your Loyal Dating Coach,
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