Creating Attraction By Intentionally Screwing Up

When I first started wading through the single scene brush, slogging down a misguided road, I thought to myself: "Why is it that the most successful guys with women I know seem to do everything wrong?"

The harder I tried NOT to mess up, the worse I did. I wanted to be flawless but "flawless" was becoming a death sentence to my success with women. Many blows to my self-esteem later, I realized I was trudging down the wrong path.

But I didn't know what the right path was. I felt frustrated and confused.

Then the universe left a few breadcrumbs for me, pointing me in the right direction...

I was watching one of the old Superman movies with my little cousin when it dawned on me. As I was watching I realized: If Superman didn't have kryptonite he wouldn't have superhero appeal. His powers are impressive but it's his Achilles heel, kryptonite, making him truly extraordinary.

If you're perceptive, maybe you're saying to yourself: "His Achilles heel makes him a hero because it humanizes him. It conveys that although he has impressive powers, he's not that different from us. We can relate to him."

But this is only part of the story. There are other underlying mechanisms at work.

One of them dawned on me while perusing a book called "The Handicap Principle," by the zoologist Amotz Zahavi. Many of us were told in school that the animals advertising signals - displaying characteristics about themselves - most fit for survival are picked by the opposite sex as mating partners.

But Zahavi felt a piece of Darwin 's puzzle was missing: Why do animals go out of their way to advertise costly signals - characteristics about themselves that decrease their chance of survival?

Because, Zahavi tells us, the opposite sex feels the greatest amount of attraction toward those advertising the most costly signals. The peahen, for example, feels attraction toward the peacock with the largest, most colorful plumage.

This large, colorful plumage is no perk for survival.

The poor peacock has to lug around those monster-sized feathers. His bright colors make him stick out like a sore thumb to predators.

Yet the message he's communicating to the peahen is: "Despite having these debilitating characteristics, I'm alive, healthy, and ready to mate." He's advertising costly signals.

These same principles apply to humans as well. Anything you do that is perceived as potentially harmful to your social status or chances of mating with a woman is advertising a costly signal.

If you advertise costly signals correctly it will skyrocket both your social status and the attraction women feel toward you.

A word of caution: Advertising costly signals only works on the condition that you've already established yourself as the Prize with a woman (or group of women).

Also, use it in moderation.

Less, in this case, really is more.

Let's look at a few examples of this. Every few years there's some pop star that starts sporting a dry heave inducing fashion. But instead of being shipped off to some leper colony, his popularity soars and his grotesque style becomes the new chic.

Another great example of this is the 1987 movie "Can't Buy Me Love." The movie's hapless hero, Donald, is determined to squelch his dork-boy reputation by paying a popular cheerleader to be his girlfriend.

Lo and behold, his mission is accomplished as he darts to the top of the popularity totem pole.

As prom edges closer Donald attempts to teach himself to dance by imitating the dance moves of what he mistakenly thinks is the television show American Bandstand. What he, unfortunately, ends up learning are the steps to an African Anteater Ritual.

When he gets to prom, thinking he has all the trendy dance moves down pat, he busts out with the African Anteater Ritual. Do people make fun of him? Nope. They love him more for it. And in the next scene a whole room of teenagers spaz out in synchronicity as they

partake in the African Anteater ritual.

These last two examples, admittedly, aren't about attracting women per se. They're about the much broader field of human psychology. Yet these same underlying mechanisms apply to attracting women.

Many guys have a harder time dealing with a woman feeling attraction toward them than one who doesn't. They shudder with fear that they'll mess up their chances with her.

She'll find out what a goofball they are and never want to talk to them again. And most of the time the woman does stop feeling attraction toward them. But it usually has nothing to with them acting like goofballs.

Instead, it's their fear that she WON'T approve of their behavior that turns her off.

Women feel no attraction toward approval seeking, validation hungry, needy men.

They feel attraction toward men whom establish themselves as the Prize.

If a woman, for example, wants to keep talking to you or keep interacting with you or see you again or find out more about you or try to get your approval or win you over...and so on, you've probably established yourself as the Prize - at least to some extent.

Establishing yourself as the Prize is what I call "Prizability." Advertising costly signals is one of the best ways to skyrocket your Prizability.

Maybe, for example, while out on a date with a woman you've just met, she comments that your favorite musician is an untalented loser. Your gut instinct shouts: "Don't let her know he's your favorite artist, lest she stops liking you."

This is the needy part of you. When women sense this part of you, they see you as desperate to mate and spread your genetic code.

But when you advertise a costly signal - by, for example, saying, "Actually he's my favorite musician. I've been to every single one of his concerts and have a big poster of him taped to a wall in my bedroom. You must have bad taste." - you're establishing that...

...you're willing to risk losing the attraction she feels toward you because you could care less what the end result is.

Women aren't used to men doing this. Often times, they'll respond by, oddly enough, changing their view to fit yours - an indication your Prizability is rapidly increasing. Sometimes not. Yet, no matter what her response is, you can use it to increase your Prizability

Before I let you go I'm gonna share one more example of advertising costly signals to increase your Prizability and skyrocket the attraction women feel toward YOU. If there's a woman who feels attraction toward you, advertise a costly signal by making her participate in a really dork laden activity.

Maybe grab her hand and start skipping and humming the theme song to Mr. Roger's Neighborhood. Insist she participate. If she already likes you, doing this will balloon your Prizability and the attraction she feels toward you.

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