How To Keep Your Girlfriend Attracted To You
A Question On Keeping A Girlfriend Hooked:
Hey man,
You already know that your stuff is the best so there isn't even a reason for me to reiterate that fact. Ok, ok, just for the record: Swinggcat's stuff rocks and WORKS!
I have a situation where my gf, who has been in love with me over the past several months has now become a little colder. She is going to her home country during college break. I obviously can't argue or prevent her from going though I have a feeling that she might be reenacting something with her ex who lives there.
Is there any way you'd advise me to behave to assure that my PRIZABILITY stays on top when she returns? Thanks!
Alex, Brooklyn , NY
Swinggcat's Comments:
For those new to my letters, Prizability is having enough value in a woman's eyes that if you walked away, jetted out her life, or didn't validate her worth, she'd take it as a loss. If she feels her life is more interesting, fun, and exciting with you in it, you've got Prizability.
I think just about all men on some level know this. That's why most guys strive with the imperative of a salmon swimming up river to catapult their Prizability through bragging to women about the size of their bank accounts, and wooing them with fancy jewelry and expensive dinners.
Paradoxically, doing these things usually plummet a man's worth in the eyes of the woman he's trying to win over. It's the fast track to Prizability suicide.
A few astute guys I know decided to boost their Prizability with women in other ways, such as, telling entertaining stories, developing their sense of humor, and becoming exceptional lovers.
Though more effective and a heck of a lot cheaper than buying women fancy gifts, their Prizability was barely buoying above survival.
Similar to the guys spending gobs of hard earned greenbacks on women, they were coming from the mindset of needing to win a woman over. If I'm funny enough or orgasm inducing enough of a lover, they thought, she will see me as a Prize.
But here's the problem… women perceive men thinking they need to win them over as having the worth of a door mat. Or a spineless yes man they can bitch around. Or a human ashtray for extinguishing their cancer sticks.
When you possess the belief, mindset, and assumption that you're a Prize women are emotionally driven to do whatever it takes to get their little and horny paws all over, your Prizability mushrooms in their eyes.
Couple the mindset that you're the Prize with, for example, possessing a great sense of humor, having interesting things to talk about, and being a great lover, and your results will be frighteningly powerful.
How can you attempt to gain more Prizability with a woman without negating the belief that she sees you as a Prize? If you believed she saw you as a Prize you wouldn't be toiling to increase your Prizability in her eyes, right?
Good points. Here's an easy way to handle that problem…
Always assume you're ballooning with Prizability in a woman's eyes… but make it a goal to see if you can boost that Prizability to an even higher level.
That way, as you're doing things to increase your Prizability you'll be unconsciously communicating to her that you're the Prize she's gotta earn, baby.
So here's my advice to you…
Don't focus on tactics for preserving and gaining Prizability with your girlfriend.
My guess is…
Almost any tactic you use will lower your Prizability because…
You're coming from the place of thinking you need to get back the Prizability you've lost. You're worried that her ex boyfriend will woe her back, dooming your Prizability to its demise.
If I were you I'd work on the internal side to attracting women. Spend your time developing the beliefs and frames that you're a Prize she wants to win over.
If you don't have my audio course you need to get yourself a copy right now. Listen to the sections on beliefs and frames at least four times and do the exercises in those sections religiously. This will make a world of difference.
I've been where you are and it sucks man. I feel for you bro.
Success Story About A Guy Already Good With Women Taking His Skills To The Next Level:
How you doin'? Listen, I just wanted to take a minute to tell you that you're a…
Freakin' genius!
A friend of mine recommended your awesome audio course & ebook, telling me I needed to hear what you had to say. Well, I'm pretty good with the ladies already, but I'm always up for more learning & taking my game to another level, so I figured “What the heck?! I'll check it out!”
Well, let me tell you, I am glad that I did! Wow! I was absolutely blown away by the level of truth that you lay out in your course, brother.
I wish I had known this stuff years ago – it would have saved me a TON of heartache, lonely nights, and jerk-off sessions (alone), let me tell you!
As I listened to your course, I found myself laughing, nodding my head in agreement, and picking up quite a few new ideas, tips, etc. many times!
So, I figured I had to put some of your techniques to use… On several occasions, I was out & used your methods on Prizability, push/pull (holy CRAP that works!), meta-frames, etc. on some lovely, intelligent women…
The results were staggering! I took a couple beautiful girls home with me the night I met them, had an absolute blast, and have added a couple more girls to my ‘personal harem!' The only problem is … now they're in love with me! LOL
Not only that, but a couple of the girls that I was dating that were ‘on the bubble' as far as the nature of our relationship, if you know what I mean, have been turned, and are now personal fuck buddies, that I can call when I please for fun & good times, haha!!
Oh, and they all want to help me with whatever I need done – cooking, cleaning, blow job, etc. A beautiful thing!
All due to your incredible course & the ideas in there.
So I just wanted to thank you for the effort you're putting out – every man needs to get his happy hands on this course. That is, if he wants to have any real success with women! And until that day comes, I'll just keep on scooping up more & more women! Hey, they're not complaining!
Take care,
T from Washington , D.C.
Swinggcat's Comments:
“Listen, I just wanted to take a minute to tell you that you're a…Freakin' genius!”
Thanks for the praise. My face looks like a bright red tomato right about now.
“A friend of mine recommended your awesome audio course & ebook.”
Two thumbs up for your buddy.
“I wish I had known this stuff years ago – it would have saved me a TON of heartache, lonely nights, and jerk-off sessions (alone), let me tell you!”
I truly believe a few of the dating advice experts and myself are going to single handedly tank the porn industry. Once this stuff becomes available to enough men, not a soul – nor an eager penis – will be joining these members-only, whack-at-your-leisure porn sites. Many a guy will be to busy enjoying his kick ass social life.
“The results were staggering! I took a couple beautiful girls home with me the night I met them, had an absolute blast, and have added a couple more girls to my ‘personal harem!' The only problem is … now they're in love with me! LOL”
Looks like I mutated you into a monster. Good job, bro.
“So I just wanted to thank you for the effort you're putting out – every man needs to get his happy hands on this course. That is, if he wants to have any real success with women! And until that day comes, I'll just keep on scooping up more & more women! Hey, they're not complaining!”
It's baffling just how much of an unfair advantage those of us possessing this knowledge have over other men. I wish I had my course ten years ago.
Comment From A Married Man:
Dear Swinggcat,
First of all, I want to thank you for releasing your audio series. I had actually been looking for exactly that shortly before you released it.
You see, I've been learning from some of the material out there. I've gotten a couple of e- and physical books, listened to some audio material, and signed up for some e-mail lists. I've never had a problem getting women, but I've never been a master at it. It's not uncommon for women to come up to me and try to pick me up. And it's not uncommon for many women to be very attracted to me, but I'm not like the guys that can drive almost any woman wild. I've never fully understood what attracts women, but I've never been one of those guys that couldn't get a woman to like him even if his life depended on it.
I've been married now for several years and it's pretty tough to keep the seduction alive, especially when you don't fully understand the mechanisms of attraction. So I decided some time back to embark upon a mission: to understand precisely what causes attraction. My intention was to learn the things that would cause (uncontrollable) attraction in my wife and the things that I should avoid with the other ladies. After getting familiar with some of the material out there, I spoke to my friend about some of it, and he told me that that stuff is useful, but a guy that goes by the name of Swinggcat has inner game in a totally different league. So I subscribed to your list. Just from reading your e-mails, I found your stuff to be ... magnetic. I found that the other guys have some good techniques for increasing a guy's chances with women, but your stuff was simply magnetic; that's the best word I can find for it. I didn't get your e-book, because I just don't have any more time to be reading e-books, and I find I don't always retain what I read in an e-book as well as I retain what I listen to, for example. So I started searching for an audio series by you ... but I found nothing. Then, as if you read my mind, you came out with it. I ordered it right away, and I listened to it whenever I drove. Great stuff. Magnetic stuff. I plan to listen to it again. Some of it I've implemented, but I'm still working at it.
Most of the other guys that teach how to be good with women seem to have a trial and error technique. They know what works, but they don't seem to have a strong grasp of *why* it works. I found you to be different: you focus on a few principles (most of which can be reduced to push-pull) and you show *why* the things that work do work. Now that is stuff I can appreciate and really apply ... and adapt, instead of just parroting.
From your stuff I realized many things I've been doing right (I've been teasing girls since I was about six; and I have a lot of push-pull and a lot of charm), and I realized some things I've been doing wrong. And I learned some things I was simply unaware of.
K from Texas
Swinggcat Comments:
“I've been married now for several years and it's pretty tough to keep the seduction alive, especially when you don't fully understand the mechanisms of attraction.”
This is awesome... a married man studying the mechanisms behind attraction. Love it!
But it brings up a very important point.
Many people think that once they're in a relationship they can stop doing the things that attracted their mate in the first place. This guy is smart enough to realize this thinking is complete B.S. He understands the importance of keeping the seduction alive.
The material I teach is as important for guys in monogamous relationships as guys slogging through the single scene trenches or living a playboy lifestyle.
I might not know you personally. But I do know...
What I teach gets results. It consistently drives women to see you as a Prize and triggers uncontrollable amounts of attraction inside them.
Just like many others have been doing, you too can catapult your current lifestyle with women by getting your hands on a copy of my course right now. You deserve it.
I'm so confident that my course is going to drastically increase your success with women I'm going to let you test-drive it for free of charge. Don't like it, send it back. You won't be charged and we'll still be friends.
You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I think you owe it to yourself to start succeeding with the women you really want.
Click here to reserve your copy right now.
And if you haven't yet picked up a copy of my ebook do so by clicking here. It's the foundation for everything I teach.
Your Loyal Dating Coach,
P.S.-If you have a success story you would like to share or a dating question you would like to ask, or a comment you would like to make, please email me at:
swinggcatsuccessstory@yahoo.com
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