How To Attract A Woman That's Out Of Your League
Question On Attracting Women Out Of Your League:
"Hi Swinggcat,
Let me tell you that in the world of seduction techniques you can consider yourself on the same level as master Yoda!
Well, having said that I was having trouble with something lately, haven't tried it out yet, but I would like to have your opinion on it, especially as you're out there in the field putting all these things into practice.
Take me, for example. I'm an above average looking guy. Say, I want to hit on a really hot woman, something like an 9 or 10. Why of all guys would she want to chase ME, when there's so many other guys out there dying to get into her pants some of which aren't at all needy or wussies, maybe another REALLY good looking player kinda type. I'm definitely below the
standards of 9's and 10's!
Now, if I start with my "hard-to-get" challenge routine, why would she want to choose me over any other of the hot guys? If I'm giving her sort of a hard time she might just as well say
to herself "hey, this guy's giving me a hard time, and he isn't even my type/in my league, so why should I bother at all? Couldn't it
just as well be that she responded indifferently to all of my challenges?
I mean, she knows she's HOT!!! Why would she want to respond to a guy who's below her standards? She might just as well turn around andleave.
Or am I getting something wrong here?
Why would she want to play along? That is the essential question in my quest... Don't get me wrong, I know your stuff works and it's absolutely unique. But I'm having a bit of
trouble to understand WHY she would accept a challenge of a regular guy? Who is he anywaycompared to her?!? (It's not what I would be thinking in that moment, but it could be HER
attitude towards me...)"
J from Oregon
Swinggcat's Response:
What men think attracts (or doesn't attract) a woman is often different from - and sometimes the opposite of - what actually attracts her.
Learning to effectively attract and succeed with women is counter intuitive for most guys.
It was for me.
Here's a paraphrase of what you said: Challenging a woman who's a 9 or a 10 will fail to get her chasing me because...
1) I fall short of her standards.
2) There are many other guys up to par with her standards who don't act needy.
You're shadow boxing, my friend. You don't yet have the experience to make these judgments.
From my experience - and I've got a lot of experience - there isn't even a grain of truth in this.
To start...
What makes a nine or a ten?
Friends of mine whose skills with da ladies would make Casanova blush have thought women were tens I felt were sevens at best.
I know women cursed with ever expanding hippopotamus bodies... yet blessed with the confidence of a perfect ten.
I've got female friends teetering on perfection who, if asked, would rate themselves a six at best.
Some girls oscillate between thinking they're a two and a ten depending on what time of the month it is.
My point: What you rate a woman isn't necessarily what other men rate her... or even what she rates herself.
What do you think makes an attractive woman?
Is it being endowed with the perfect genes?
Not at all.
What makes an attractive woman is having the ability to ATTRACT men.
A woman knows she's attractive when men VALIDATE
her as attractive.
If you passively ignore her, giving her no validation, most likely, she'll get that validation from other guys.
But when you proactively make women work for your validation by doing things like challenging them in the right way, they want validation specifically from you...
...because they see you as a ten they want to win over (in a minute I'm gonna share with you the right way to challenge women).
Almost always, when a woman feels compelled to work for a man's validation, she's experiencing that magical emotion called "attraction."
Attraction is not a value judgment a woman makes toward a man.
It's not filling the quota for a compendium qualities Cosmo magazine dinned into her as her ideal mate: Brad Pitt's mug, Bill Gate's bank account, and Ron Jeremy's penis, for example.
These are generalizations about what many women think triggers attraction inside them.
Sometimes these generalizations come from past experiences.
Usually they come from social programming.
But there are many ways to trigger this emotion inside women without looks, money, or fame.
Sometimes women aren't even aware they exist.
One I mentioned earlier is challenging women.
To get the maximum benefit out of challenging women, you've got to develop a strong intent.
You know what a strong intent is?
Let me give you an example.
If you challenge a woman with, "I only date adventurous women. Are you adventurous?" you're communicating...
1) You've got the unwavering standard that if a girl isn't adventurous you won't date her.
2) You've got the unwavering belief - no matter how irrational it seems - she wants to date you.
Forewarning: You can only maximize the power of this challenge by...
1) Genuinely possessing the standard of dating only adventurous women.
2) Whole heartedly believing she wants you.
When it comes to challenging women your beliefs and standard are much more important than the words flowing from your lips.
Few men challenge women. Even fewer challenge women with a strong intent.
So if you challenge a woman with a strong intent there's a good chance you'll be the first man to ever challenge her like that.
It's bound to have a powerful impact on her.
There might still be a small worry lurking in the back of your mind: What if a woman perceives herself as having more value (or what I call Prizability) than you?
Here's what happens ninety-five percent of the time...
If she perceives herself as being out of a man's league but then...
He challenges her with a strong intent something magical happens...
She's picked up by the scruff of her neck, sucked into his reality, perceiving him as a Prize she'll do whatever it takes to possess.
Interestingly, I've found that the more a woman perceives herself as being out of a man's league the more power the challenge has... but only if the challenge is coupled with a strong intent.
But I want to warn you...
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