The Attraction Of A Good Challenge
Succes Story from a reader...
"I remember when I first got your audio course last October and the first night I went out I did your cold reading first telling her of generalities that most women had then I went into a little ring routine, and pegged some things but she wasn't quite buying into it yet but a little .
Then I went into the CUBE and that got her hook line and sinker, she was still trying to resist so I asked her if she was spontaneous and adventurous, and she said yes.
Then I asked her if she was in kissing school what kind of grade she would get and she said A+ then I pulled out a thing of passion fruit chappstick and said " check this out not only does this smell like passion fruit(let her smell) but it taste like passion fruit, want to try" then I went for the kiss and she resisted and I said are you afraid that I'm going to find out you are a lousy kisser.
Then she gave me a kiss but a lame one and I graded her a an F and she just had to redeem herself so she gave me a much better kiss and I gave her a B- she did not like the B- but she is the one to call me the next day and we hung out a few times and I will not go into detail in what we did because gentlemen don't tell."
Jeremy from Des Moines , Iowa
Jeremy…
First of all, good job man. You're doing a lot right.
You started with the ring routine and the cube. These are games you can play with women. If used correctly they can rapidly speed up the attraction process.
Here and there, I've enthralled women with a game, such as: the ring routine and the cube. Then halfway through, I abruptly stopped playing the game. Just like a crack feign, they became moody and distraught, experiencing violent withdrawals.
And many a time, women have made crazy attempts at coaxing me into finishing up the game: from touching and grabbing me to buying me drinks and kissing me.
Note: if you don't know what the ring routine and the cube are you need to learn them. They are a powerful addition to your attraction arsenal. I teach them both in my audio course.
You felt she wasn't buying into the ring routine. Know why? I'm willing to bet the ring routine isn't completely congruent for you yet: The tone of your voice and your body language don't match the words flying out of your mouth.
How do you develop the right body language and voice tone?
Work on strengthening your belief that the ring routine is going to completely rivet women's attention.
The stronger this belief becomes, the more congruent your body language and voice will be.
One of my favorite ways to develop this belief is to mentally rehearse women engrossed and captivated by every word I utter.
Remember... the more congruent you are with these games, the less work you have to do to get to the next stage in the attraction process.
"Then I went into the CUBE and that got her hook line and sinker, she was still trying to resist so I asked her if she was spontaneous and adventurous, and she said yes."
Okay... this is great. After the cube you felt she was still resistant. Most guys would have walked away or given out more candy by showing her another game.
You took a different route by throwing a barrage of challenges at her. This is exactly what I would have done.
Challenges bait women into qualifying themselves to you. When done correctly they can reverse the frame from you trying to win them over to them proving themselves to you.
"Then I asked her if she was in kissing school what kind of grade she would get and she said A+ then I pulled out a thing of passion fruit chap stick and said ' check this out not only does this smell like passion fruit (let her smell) but it taste like passion fruit, want to try.' then I went for the kiss and she resisted."
The kissing school line has been responsible for me locking lips with heaps of women over the years.
I taught a buddy of mine this line a few days ago and he was shocked at how well it works.
Here's what I would have done differently…
After her telling you that she'd get an A+ I wouldn't have dillydallied around with the “passion fruit chap stick” spiel.
Instead I would have said, “Let's find out,” and then kissed her.
When you challenge a woman without making her follow through on it ASAP, it loses its power.
And I said are you afraid that I'm going to find out you are a lousy kisser.
This is good because you're controlling the frame that you're the Prize she wants to win over. You're defining the behavior of her not kissing you as meaning that she's afraid you won't approve of her kissing ability.
The problem is…
What you said might've snapped the frame. It worked in this situation. Though, I bet, some women would be turned off by it.
The trick is to add humor. Humor is a license to control the frame. If you're funny, you can set the most ridiculously strong frames and women will get sucked right into them.
Instead of feeling turned off they'll love you and do exactly what you want them to.
Strong frames + humor = results with women
A few weeks ago, to give you an example, a woman resisted kissing me. So in an overly sarcastic tone I said to her: “It's obvious that you're afraid I'll find out about your chronic halitosis breath.”
Then I took out a breath mint and said, “This should take care of the problem.”
She laughed her ass off and then I kissed her. No resistance, by the way.
The frame I set was even stronger than yours: I implied the reason she won't kiss me is because she doesn't want me to find out about her bad breath.
But because I added a ton of humor to the frame, it didn't snap. She didn't become turned off. Instead, she got sucked into my reality and I got exactly the outcome I wanted.
I've got two questions for you…
When interacting with women, how successful are you at setting the frame that you're the Prize they feel compelled to win over?
When you lose control of this frame with a woman, how often can you take back control?
The reason I ask is...
If you fail to control this frame and lack the skills and confidence to gain back control of this frame when you lose it… you're missing out on a ton of success with women. You're letting heaps of opportunities with amazing women slip through your fingers.
I should know. I spent years as a fumbling gimp at controlling the frame.
But after years of experimenting in the Real World with real women, I've come up with a four step easy-to-master method for setting and maintaining the frame that you're the Prize women are emotionally driven to win over.
Inside my course you'll learn this four-step method and dozens and dozens of techniques for adding humor to your frame setting.
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